BBW DATING!
What is different about BBW dating than "regular" dating? First, I hate even using the word "regular" or "normal". It makes it seem as if we aren't normal, when in fact we are a large chunk of the population (pardon the pun)!
I have been divorced for 11 years and have dated me from match.com and other "regular" dating sites as well as ones directed to the BBW and those who love us. If haven't had much luck either way.
My standards are quite high since I do not want to repeat bad choices and I have a daughter to protect.
However, I have noticed that there is a fetish for bbws. There are names for them like "chubby chasers" and they love the look of a larger lady.
I recorded some thoughts on the matter and would really like to hear back from you. What are your dating struggles or successes? Are there better dating sites than others? Let me know.
One other issue I have encountered is the desire to be sexy on our online photos can sometimes go to far and look trashy. In my opinion. Do we as bbws try too hard?
What is considered a sexy bbw picture and what is trashy? I think most of us have seen the bent over, show my butt pics. What is that going to attract? Ok, I am not a hater. This is just my humble opinion, but if you are sending out a message like that, you know what kind of response you"ll get, right?
Sexy is great! I am all about empowering oneself but you have to know where to draw the line.
WHAT DO YOU THINK?
I have a great husband who is not himself "chubby" and is quite good-looking. It makes skinnier girls jealous, but, you know what? I am too busy enjoying my life with my gorgeous husband to worry about what THEY think. The one thing he said he was drawn to about me? My confidence. My power. My not acting like the typical "wallflower"- type big girl who gets overlooked by not KNOWING she is sexy. Do your thing, and it will come :)
ReplyDeleteI work in the fetish industry... I get what you are saying on body size being a "kink"... Im divorced and no longer try dating online, it wasnt fun being a one date wonder... I have had a lover for 18 years yet he isnt my 24/7 boyfriend. Wow huh? Different story!! I have confidence and men are attracted to me. Most are sexually attracted not love seeking... whatever... I enjoy what comes my way - play with those I choose to play with - develop relationships with those who respect - like - enjoy - me as is. Yes it shrinks the pond I have to pick from but I would rather feel awesome with a significant in my life, even if it means being in outside the box relationships than feeling as though I am settling just to have a man around.
ReplyDeleteI guess you see all sorts. it would give you great perspective I would think.
ReplyDeleteI am not one to dabble in the "sexual pool" so my prospects are also limited. Not to say that I never have, especially when I was younger. But at my age and being a parent, those priorities have changed. Thank you for your comments and I do like to see confidence in us plus size girls!